Saturday, May 25, 2013

Learning to be a Caged Bird

May 25, 2013

Last night, I sat and watched a recorded episode Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday with Maya Angelou (part 2).  I love listening to Maya speak because she speaks lyrically ( I love her word choices) and with such wisdom.  Within the last year, I finally read one of Maya’s books that has long been on my list of books to read, “I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings.”  It was not what I expected but interesting just the same. 
I read the book with great anticipation to understanding the title of the book.  I wanted to know why the caged bird sings.  But, me and poetry don’t get along.  Nine times out of ten (and I’m being generous) I don’t get the symbolism in poetry.  I remember in high school freshman English asking Ms. Clancy, “How do you know that poem isn’t really just about buildings in a cityscape?  Why does it have to have a deeper meaning?”  So, the caged bird reference was no different for me.
But last night, Oprah asked Maya, “Why does the caged bird sing?”  Yay!!  Maya answered, “Because it must.”  She went on to explain that the free bird sings of the things he does and can get but the caged bird sings his “fearful trill” for the freedom his heart longs for.  The free bird takes for granted his freedom and all the trappings that come with it but the caged bird sings his song so beautifully because it is his heart’s deepest longing.
As I continue to look back over the journey of Kelsey’s illness for the last three years, I recognize that in the times of the depths of my despair, I was standing on “the grave of dreams.”  But, unlike the caged bird, I didn’t open my “throat to sing.”  Instead, I resented losing some of the things that I so took for granted: health, freedom to do what you wanted and when, the gleam of life in my daughter’s eyes, and just plain ol’ normal life.  I think, I hope, that this is one of the areas that I have grown in my faith: to praise God all the time, especially when I have to rise above my circumstances to do it.
The caged bird sings because he must.  Because, the alternative is a pit of despair and loneliness.  Because, in his singing, he is free.
I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings

The free bird leaps
on the back of the wind
and floats downstream
till the current ends
and dips his wings
in the orange sun rays
and dares to claim the sky.

But a bird that stalks
down his narrow cage
can seldom see through
his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and
his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing.

The caged bird sings
with fearful trill
of the things unknown
but longed for still
and his tune is heard
on the distant hill for the caged bird
sings of freedom

The free bird thinks of another breeze
and the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn
and he names the sky his own.

But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing

The caged bird sings
with a fearful trill
of things unknown
but longed for still
and his tune is heard
on the distant hill
for the caged bird
sings of freedom.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Renewing and Transforming

May 14, 2013

The truth is I’ve been a bit blocked in my writing lately.  Perhaps my work schedule is worrying me more than it should.  It is a bit hard to admit because I’ve never really been worried about it before.  I’ve always stood solidly on the ground that God is in control of my schedule and He will bring to me the people that I need to see and that need to be seen.  If I am to be truly honest, I have to confess that I am struggling with a touch of depression.  It is something that I have had periodically for most of my life.  That is probably adding a bit to my block also. 
In the past, if I had a lull in my counseling load, there usually ended up being a reason.  Sometimes, I needed a break to refresh.  Sometimes, it freed me to go to doctors’ appointments.  Sometimes, bad things happened that I needed time off from work.  The cause has always been fairly evident.
The last few weeks have been light and now this week is looking bleak.  It makes me wonder what is ahead.  But as this continues on, I have to also admit that Satan and negative thinking are starting to work on me.  Doubts about myself are creeping in just a little.  I step back from those thoughts and acknowledge that I am no different than I was a month ago.  But having those doubts is unsettling.
Is it contradictory to say that I know God is in control of my schedule after just admitting to having self-doubt?  My initial answer is no, it’s not.  If there is one thing I’ve learned over the last few years it is that God is always with me and that He is in control.  The “but” to that statement is that I have to move too.  I have to take steps.  So, as a responsible counselor, I have to look at what I am doing as well as how I am doing it and why.  It’s a process that easily opens myself up to self-doubt.
I am reminded of Romans 12:2 which says, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is.”  I am reminded of it because it is written on the wall above my head and I saw it as I sat back thinking about this.  That whole thing about writing it on the doorposts as mentioned in Deuteronomy works!

I am also reminded of that verse because we just talked about it in Bible class Sunday morning.  I liked the analogy that being transformed is much like metamorphosis.  Much like a caterpillar morphs into a beautiful butterfly, so must my worldly self morph into a holy self.  This process is caused by the renewing (notice that it is an –ing word) of the mind.  You have to renew your mind in order to be transformed so that you can prove the will of God. 
So, the application for me is that I have to diligently fight the thoughts of self-doubt and the negative thoughts that are more prevalent when depression is near knowing that this process changes me and brings me closer to the One I want to emulate.  And, then, when I am near to Him, I will feel his leading and rest in the plan He has for me.

Thursday, May 2, 2013

So Far To Come and So Far To Go

May 2, 2013

In our Bible study, we are studying about how God can bring us “so far.”  In other words, He can bring us further than we ever could of our own accord.  In the study, we were asked to place ourselves along a continuum rating our progress of growth from “Can’t see any progress” to “A little progress” to “Significant progress” to “So far.”  My first circle was at “significant progress” because I thought, “I still have so far to go.”  But, when I looked back over my life, I realized that I’d come “so far” and that it was only by the hand of God.
One area that I’ve come so far in is flexibility.  It used to drive me nuts to have my plans changed.  Once I made plans, they were set in stone.  We used to have friends that would never plan the weekend more than a couple of days in advance and that was so frustrating to me!  I wanted to know what I was doing, what I could plan on.  Being married to Tim, who used to work in tech support, really challenged me in this area.  Plans changed constantly because he would get a call to go work.  It wasn’t a change I willingly succumbed to.
For me, the most memorable line in the movie, “The American President,” starring Annette Bening, Michael Douglas, and Michael J. Fox, came from Fox’s character who was telling the President, “I tell my girlfriends that all plans are soft until I confirm 30 minutes before.”  It represents a way that I had to learn to live.  Looking back, I see that I was in training.  Even before I knew God, He was working in my life to bring me so far.  He brought Tim to me and one result of that is me having to learn flexibility.  Looking at it now, I can see that there is an art to being flexible.  Going with the flow, taking things in stride takes grace.
That very grace allows me to take a step back, not get so frustrated, and wait to see what God has planned for me.  For instance, when my schedule at work gets light, instead of worrying about it, I wait to see what happens because so often it opens at just the right point to allow for an unexpected event.  One great example was this morning.  Early this morning, at 5 am, I awake from a nightmare that was quite upsetting.  I managed to go back to sleep until my alarm went off at 7:00 but I was still reeling from the nightmare.  I remember thinking, “If I had an office job, I’d call in sick this morning.”  But I don’t and I had three appointments this morning and three after lunch.  It’s really not an easy thing to reschedule appointments.  So I went to work.  As it turned out, my second and third appointments no-showed me.  That used to be so much more frustrating to me.  But today, was one of those times when I knew it was working in my favor.  It gave me time to reorient my mind.
Then a colleague brought me flowers just to say she appreciated me.  And then I went to lunch with a friend.  All three things worked together to get me back on track.  I see God’s hand in every step of this: Tim, learning to be more flexible, learning to trust that God has plans for me, and encouragement from friends.  Who else could orchestrate such things?  By the grace of God, I have come so far.
“Who am I, O Sovereign Lord, and what is my family, that you have brought me this far?”
~ ~ 2 Sam. 7:18
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.  Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
~ ~ Jer. 29:11-13